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Pressure Anxiety

Deadlines “To-do”-lists Goals Performing Being at the top Competing Does this list sound familiar, especially at the beginning of a new year? Pressure towards achievement is a common feature for many of us.A burning desire to succeed can help, in some ...

Fights: a chance to communicate?

It happened, you fought again, probably about the usual issues: chores, budget, activities, etc. Now you probably feel rejected, lonely, and misunderstood. Possibly your partner/s feel/s the same way, yet you aren’t able to communicate it to each ...

Sex reassignment process in Finland – What does it take?

Are you looking for information on how to start the process of sex reassignment? Maybe you want to help a family member or a friend in this situation? Here you can find the basic information about the process. Please, mind that this article contains only ...

Sex in Contexts

For pleasure to rise contexts is not irrelevant. I am talking about circumstances such as: Mental state Physical state Setting Circumstances of life Fantasy and mindset Action: what to do and not to do (alone and with your partner/s) Creating the right ...

Personal Pleasure

It is OK to make time for yourself and your pleasure!Flying solo, masturbation, autoeroticism… it has many names. Through the ages, self-gratification has been described as a shameful and inappropriate activity. Shame on self-gratification has been used ...

The problematic perception and verbalization of gender

What is gender? As a sexologist, I would respond that gender is determined by psychic, social, legal, biological, and emotional experiences. Biological gender, or in other words the gender assigned at birth, is an anatomical definition that may or may not ...

Safety and sex

What is safe to do during sex? What is not? For example, is “traditional” sex safer than kinky? This post is part of the series “Dare to ask”, if you want to ask something about this theme, you can leave a comment or write me an e-mail. We can talk about ...

LOST IN TRANSLATION

Communication is almost never straight forward neither easy, especially when talking about feelings. Often cultural misunderstandings and language gaps create conflicts in multicultural couples. Language and culture are strictly interrelated. Our cultural ...

Paraphilia

When we talk about paraphilia we mean permanent (or long-term) sexual interest. This post is part of the series “Dare to ask”, if you want to ask something about this theme, you can leave a comment or write me an e-mail. We can talk about your ...

Sexual stimulation, pleasure and orgasm

Is there pleasure without orgasm? Is orgasm the only way to have a successful sexual experience? This post is part of the series “Dare to ask”, if you want to ask something about this theme, you can leave a comment or write me an e-mail. We ...