This is the first post of the series “Dare to ask” if you want to ask something about this theme, you can leave a comment or write me an e-mail. We can talk about your questions more extensively also in therapy or counselling.

Everyone has the right to fantasies and all fantasies are allowed! More or less everyone has a subconscious notion of the right and proper sexuality and its realization. In practice, however, sexuality is a personal and private part of us so everyone has the right to develop and implement it in a way that suits them and is pleasing to them without restriction and without feeling ashamed of their own preferences and fantasies. People may get aroused by things that are commonly perceived as scary, dirty, or wrong, so it’s important to remember that there is a difference between fantasies and making them happen. The so called “shameful” fantasies are more common than you think!