This post is part of the series “Dare to ask”, if you want to ask something about this theme, you can leave a comment or write me an e-mail. We can talk about your questions more extensively also in therapy or counselling.

Is it normal not to want sex or just want it a little? Desire is not just a matter of quantity but also of quality. A total lack of desire is a rare disorder and even the desire to desire can be considered a sexual realization.

Have you ever wondered what you want when you want sex, in other words, what kind of sex you want and especially what you don’t want? Sexual desire is a mental and / or physical experience, it is a feeling or need to experience something sexual. Too often, we fail to think about what sex means to us and what it includes.

The media created for us a limited heteronormative and penetration-oriented image of sex. Instead, we could wonder can sex be more than penetration?

NOTE: Your desire changes and evolves with you therefore desire can be increased!